Madeline has a very complex medical condition. It is never going to go away. In fact, it is quite serious.
Why would we willingly take such a baby? Because we received personal revelation from Heavenly Father that we should.
We are now at the hospital, far away from home, waiting to hear what steps the doctors are planning to take to correct some of her complications. Surgery is most likely going to happen within the next few days. Though not unexpected for us, it has happened sooner than we anticipated.
We thought long and hard, prayed heavily and sincerely, and weighed many options before bringing Maddie into our family. Despite understanding that the path would be unknown we felt very peaceful deciding to adopt her.
Truly, we love her already. She is a part of our family. No matter what happens–how the path may turn– we are grateful that we felt impressed to care for this child. It is comforting to know that we received that answer to bring her into our lives from our loving and all-knowing Father.
He knows the outcome. I will trust in that.
It’s official. We signed the paper work today. Maddie is permanently placed in our home and we are foster-to-adopt parents!
Only 2 weeks waiting to be cleared. It could have taken so much longer. We know that many prayers have been answered and we are more than grateful.
Adding Maddie to our family happened in a whirlwind. So much so that we weren’t even finished becoming licensed foster care providers. Luckily for us the State of California, with all of its bureaucracy, allowed us to be with her during the day even though she wasn’t able to be in our care at night. We’d have to wait for the fingerprinting and criminal background checks to clear before we could get the OK to officially bring her home. As you can imagine, there is no time frame for such a process. They get to it when they get to it.
But there’s a solution to every problem. ANGELS worked out an arrangement that allowed her to be with us all day long while a respite care family took her overnight. So, we’ve been able to bond with her and help her get accustomed to our family and home even though we’ve had to take her back to “the sleeping house” at night. The silver lining is we get the “day shift” and can feel more rested after a normal night’s sleep where we’d otherwise have to get up multiple times. That said, we’d rather just have her with us all the time. Every day gets harder to let her go.
Though we wouldn’t choose this situation, we are so grateful for this kind family that would help our little girl by caring for her during the most difficult “shift.”
We are pleased to announce that our family has grown! We welcomed a baby girl (3 months old) into our home and are currently on the track toward adoption. We will be calling her Madeline– Maddie, for short.
As the adoption has not yet been finalized, we’re still required to maintain confidentiality about many of the details. So, we will not be providing too much information over public media. That means no pictures at this time either. Rest assured, as soon as we are able we’ll plaster as many photos of her as we can on this blog!
How did this happen so fast, you may ask. As mentioned before, we have been waiting so long for Maddie to join our family. Little was happening. Last month we decided that we needed to look for other options for adoption. We realized that there were many babies in need in the foster care system here. We prayed and decided that a local foster care agency called Angels of Santa Barbara was the right fit for our family.
No sooner had we completed the initial paper work for the agency than this darling little girl entered our lives. We were asked if we would be willing to foster her with the hopes of adoption. We could hardly consider otherwise.
There are some health complications that are significant. But after sincere fasting, pondering, and prayer we knew she was one we shouldn’t pass up. In time, we’ll post more about her condition. But for now, know that the concern is overshadowed by the joy that comes with caring for this sweet spirit. She is definitely meant to be with our family. All three of us are positively in love.
Many of you have asked how our adoption process is going this second time around. The answer: slowly. What a different experience this one has been. With Warren, there was no waiting. Before we had even finished the paper work, we were chosen and life with our little son began.
Not so this time. We’ve been on “the waiting list” for almost a year now and, really, we’ve had relatively no prospects over the last 12 months. Of course we are still faithful that it will work out, but lately I’ve been more than a little discouraged.
It’s funny how trials in your life work, isn’t it? Before we welcomed Warren into our family we went forward with the adoption process knowing it was time but thinking it wouldn’t bother us if we had to wait a long time for it to happen. Boom. We get Renny (for which, of course, we are beyond grateful). Now, we are anxious to add to our family, hoping it will happen any minute, and all we can do is wait, wait, and wait some more. I know that there are lessons to be learned here, just as there were the first time. The biggest lesson being that things do not happen according to our time line but as the Lord sees is best for us. Oh, I hope that I can do more than just acknowledge this truth but that I can let it soak into my thoughts and attitude, as well.
But some good news, we hope. Just recently we were contacted by our caseworker about a birth mom in New Mexico who is four months along. We don’t know if this will go anywhere, but it has been such a boost to our testimonies to know that we have not been forgotten. Our Father in Heaven truly is mindful of our desires.
Thank you, all of you, for your love and concern, your support, your prayers. What strength it gives us.